B'nai Mitzvah Frequently Asked Questions

What will my child be doing with Rabbi Michael?

• Study the worship service and its deeper meaning.
• Study the Torah and Haftarah text and classic commentaries.
• Find personal meaning in the Torah and Haftarah text to apply in writing his/her D’var Torah (speech).
• Practice reading from the Torah scroll.

What will my child be doing with Rabbi Amy?

• Rehearsals of the Shabbat morning service.
• Ensure that the speech is completed and that the child is fully prepared.
• Help the family and student feel comfortable with their roles during the services on Friday evening and Saturday morning.

Should I attend sessions with the Rabbis and my child?

• Absolutely! Sharing in your child’s B’nai Mitzvah journey will make it more meaningful for your family.

Are there other ways for my family to be involved at the ceremony?

• Family members are invited to lead the candle lighting and Kiddush on Friday night.
• Parents are invited to offer a brief blessing following the child’s D’var Torah (speech).
• On Saturday morning, family members can participate in the Torah passing, dressing the Torah, lifting the Torah, and leading the blessings over wine and bread.

Not everyone in my family is Jewish. Does that matter?

• We believe strongly that every family member who supports your child on his or her Jewish journey has the right to participate in this simcha (joyous occasion). The Rabbis will help find comfortable and appropriate roles for anyone who wishes to have one.

How often should my child be practicing?

• Every single day, even if it’s just a little. Seriously!

How else can I make sure everything runs smoothly at the service?

• The best way to prepare for your child’s B’nai Mitzvah is by joining study sessions with your child and by attending Shabbat services at Temple Israel. The more involved you are, the more comfortable you will be on your child’s big day.